the book deets
title: how to be a bawse*
author: lilly singh
rating: ★★★★★★★★☆☆ (8/10)
[1] VISION BOARDS/ VISUAL AFFIRMATIONS
For the longest time I've dismissed vision boards
and having "inspirational" wallpapers
because I thought they were lame.
But I think, along the lines of my recent read of Marie Kondo's books
the environment does impact how you feel, how you act, etc.
So I caved in:
1. new phone wallpapers
2. new desktop wallpapers*
3. monthly vision boards where I upload my fave pics into a google photo folder :)
*ALSO, desktop wallpapers are REALLY HARD TO FIND
even on Pinterest and via google search.
I've been making a few of my own but
if you have any suggestions for good ones,
please let me know!
[2] HOW TO SHIFT YOUR THINKING ft. tiramisu
She has a chapter where she talks about
shifting thinking so that it really gets at
what's going on deep down.
She explains it SO BEAUTIFULLY
as the three layers of a tiramisu:
what are you telling other people
what are you telling yourself
what is really going on
One of my favourite chapters on there
because I've taken these three questions
to use as a part of some deeper reflection
in my daily journalling :)
[3] AMPLIFY VOICES YOU ALIGN WITH INSTEAD OF SHUTTING DOWN OTHERS RIGHT TO SPEAK BECAUSE YOU DISAGREE WITH THEIR MESSAGE
A dilemma I have often is:
a. I value the freedom of speech because I have been in the minority voice in a place where freedom of speech is not as strong
b. I also find it incredibly important that social media plays a role in content moderating
I think b. is really hard of a position
and I'm glad I'm not in that situation of being in that role
because I honestly don't have answers.
What I think Lilly hits on is the idea that
as individual human beings,
what we CAN do,
is instead of taking away someone's right to tell their story,
to take up their space in the world (i.e., cancelling),
we instead amplify and give power
to voices that we agree with and think are important.
I think that
a) aligns with my value of freedom of speech and freedom of expression, including for those who disagree with me and my values
b) and I'm putting energy behind really supporting people that I truly value instead of spending that effort tearing down someone I dislike
other weekly deets
currently reading: The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin*
currently watching: Blackpink House vlogs
currently eating: organic apples and surprisingly less mad about it than anticipated
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