my 3 takeaways from How To Be A Bawse by Lilly Singh

the book deets

• title: how to be a bawse*

• author: lilly singh

• rating: ★★★★★★★★☆☆ (8/10)

[1] VISION BOARDS/ VISUAL AFFIRMATIONS

For the longest time I've dismissed vision boards

and having "inspirational" wallpapers

because I thought they were lame.

But I think, along the lines of my recent read of Marie Kondo's books

the environment does impact how you feel, how you act, etc.

So I caved in:

1. new phone wallpapers

2. new desktop wallpapers*

3. monthly vision boards where I upload my fave pics into a google photo folder :)

*ALSO, desktop wallpapers are REALLY HARD TO FIND

even on Pinterest and via google search.

I've been making a few of my own but

if you have any suggestions for good ones,

please let me know!

[2] HOW TO SHIFT YOUR THINKING ft. tiramisu

She has a chapter where she talks about

shifting thinking so that it really gets at

what's going on deep down.

She explains it SO BEAUTIFULLY

as the three layers of a tiramisu:

• what are you telling other people

• what are you telling yourself

• what is really going on

One of my favourite chapters on there

because I've taken these three questions

to use as a part of some deeper reflection

in my daily journalling :)

[3] AMPLIFY VOICES YOU ALIGN WITH INSTEAD OF SHUTTING DOWN OTHERS RIGHT TO SPEAK BECAUSE YOU DISAGREE WITH THEIR MESSAGE

A dilemma I have often is:

a. I value the freedom of speech because I have been in the minority voice in a place where freedom of speech is not as strong

b. I also find it incredibly important that social media plays a role in content moderating

I think b. is really hard of a position

and I'm glad I'm not in that situation of being in that role

because I honestly don't have answers.

What I think Lilly hits on is the idea that

as individual human beings,

what we CAN do,

is instead of taking away someone's right to tell their story,

to take up their space in the world (i.e., cancelling),

we instead amplify and give power

to voices that we agree with and think are important.

I think that

a) aligns with my value of freedom of speech and freedom of expression, including for those who disagree with me and my values

b) and I'm putting energy behind really supporting people that I truly value instead of spending that effort tearing down someone I dislike

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• currently eating: organic apples and surprisingly less mad about it than anticipated

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